Dating Terms Explained: Top, Bottom, Vers, Twink, Hosting, PrEP & More

Dating Terms Explained: Top, Bottom, Vers, Twink, Hosting, PrEP & More
Within LGBTQ+ dating platforms and social environments, individuals often use shorthand to describe: Sexual preferences Relationship goals Physical characteristics Health awareness Meeting logistics Understanding these commonly used terms may help improve communication, compatibility, and expectations between partners.

A

ABDL

Adult Baby/Diaper Lover. Refers to regression-based roleplay involving caregiving dynamics between consenting adults.


B

Bareback (BB)

Refers to penetrative sex without a condom.

Bear

Typically describes someone with a larger body type and more body hair.

Bottom

A person who prefers the receptive role during penetrative sex.

Bondage

Consensual use of restraints to limit movement during intimacy.

Bubble Butt

Term describing a rounded or prominent buttock shape.


C

Chem

Short for chemsex, referring to substance use in sexual contexts.

Chastity

Restricting access to genital stimulation to delay or prevent orgasm.

CMNM

Clothed Male / Naked Male — a roleplay dynamic involving one clothed partner and one unclothed partner.

Cub

Often refers to a younger Bear or someone with similar physical traits.

Cuck

Interest in watching a partner interact sexually with another person.


D

DL (Down Low)

Refers to someone who keeps their sexual preferences private.

Discreet

Indicates preference for confidentiality and privacy.

Dom

Dominant partner in a power exchange dynamic.

DTF

“Down To Fuck” — indicates openness to sexual interaction.


F

FWB

Friends With Benefits — ongoing intimacy without romantic commitment.

Feet

Attraction to feet or foot-based interaction.


G

Gear

Interest in fetish clothing or accessories.

GHB

A depressant sometimes referenced in chemsex contexts.

Gooner

Someone who engages in prolonged arousal or edging.

Group

Interest in multi-partner interaction.


H

Host

Able to provide a private space to meet.


J

Jock

Typically refers to an athletic body type or sportswear aesthetic.


K

K / Kat

Refers to ketamine.


L

LTR

Long-Term Relationship.


N

NSA

No Strings Attached — casual interaction without commitment.

NPNC

No Pic, No Chat.


O

Otter

Lean body type with body hair.


P

PEP

Post-Exposure Prophylaxis medication taken after potential HIV exposure.

PNP (Party & Play)

Combining substance use with sexual interaction.

Poz

Refers to someone who is HIV-positive.

PrEP

Pre-Exposure Prophylaxis medication used to reduce HIV risk.


R

Raw Only

Preference for condomless sex.

RN

Right Now — indicates immediate availability.


S

Safe / Safer Sex

Refers to protective strategies such as condom use or PrEP.

Side

Someone who prefers non-penetrative sexual interaction.

Sub

Submissive partner in a power exchange dynamic.


T

T / TINA

Codeword referring to methamphetamine.

Top

Typically the penetrative partner.

Travel

Willing to meet at another person’s location.

Twink

Young, slim, minimally hairy body type.


U

U=U

Undetectable = Untransmittable.

Indicates that someone living with HIV who maintains an undetectable viral load cannot sexually transmit HIV.


V

Vers

Short for versatile — comfortable taking either top or bottom role.


W

WS (Watersports)

Refers to urine-based interaction.


Final Thoughts

Understanding commonly used LGBTQ+ dating terms may help users communicate preferences, expectations, and availability more effectively when using online platforms.